Follow the Rules
Over the past 8 years, I have availed myself to a constant study of the law.
I am a rule follower. It was deeply troubling that the father of my children broke and continues to break the law throughout. He has pressured friends and family to join him. They complied.
My advice backed by 8 years of experience: Treat the law as a threshold that you will not cross regardless of the choices made by those who will.
At the same time, remember to keep the bad actors accountable. Do not succumb to their pressure. Stand up for the law. You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to do so. The law exists for a reason as does the law of human decency.