I have had my share of trauma for the past 8 years and counting. Not only did I ever expect the father of my children to take our son from me, I never expected that my friends and family would join him to keep him from me which has now passed 6.5 years.

Going it alone has given me plenty of time to come up with coping techniques. One of them is to check in on my state of mind: if I feel sad and anxious then I accept that I feel sad and anxious. Alternatively, if I feel hopeful. I accept that I feel hopeful.

I learned that both states of mind are useful. They are not mutually exclusive either. They can exist at the same time.

The take away here? our state of mind is within our control. In my case, the father of my children and my family and friends cannot make me feel a certain way. Only I can.

There is power in knowing that I can shift my state of mind into the positive as the negative does not serve me.

There are 4 words that I say to myself all of the time.

“It is what it is”

State of Mind